I did a fantastic job severing ties with my ex a couple of weeks ago, and while I still feel it was for the best as my sanity was being compromised remaining in a limbo-like friendship, I am now depressed about the fact that it feels like he hates me, and I really can't forsee a way, with how things are now, for us to resume contact in the future, after we have healed.A few weeks ago, I sent him a very nice and reasonable (I thought) email explaining why I couldn't remain friends with him. He replied asking for my number. I emailed back saying that for the reasons I mentioned earlier, I couldn't be friends, and so we shouldn't talk.Not wanting to deal with receiving a phone call from him which I would have to ignore (or not receiving one at all), I then switched off my phone. I turned it back on today, to find a message from him. It was short, he just asked, in an exasperated tone, to call him back. I am not sure when he left it, after the first email or the second.I also blocked him on facebook.
Again, for my sanity (so I can't stalk him), not to make any kind of statement or to be cruel. But, I am afraid he doesn't understand. I'm afraid he is taking this to mean I don't care about him, or I'm doing this in a last-ditch effort to manipulate him somehow. He even joined a group on the facebook, before I blocked him, called Anti-Succubus Coalition - basically a group for guys with jealous, manipulative ex-girlfriends. I am just depressed that after everything we have been through together, the person I care about most, whom I love so much, and who has been such an integral part of the last three years of my life, might be gone forever. I know I did the cutting-out, but I tried to do it in a way that didn't burn bridges. It feels like he's burnt them for me.I fear that I will attempt to get in contact with him a couple of years down the road and he will either ridicule me or not respond at all.
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